Closure...is essential. Jamie and I have struggled with the loss of Harley. Not ready to put away his toys. His bed. His food bowls. The volume of loss we feel for his daily essence screams loudly to us each day as we realize...he is... never...coming...back...
One morning, before work, Jamie said..."Let's plant something in our garden in memory of Harley". "Great idea", I said.
On my way to work...ring...ring...It was Tauna. "Tim and I were thinking we would like to get you a plant for your garden". "Great idea", I said.
I then realized, it was not only Jamie and me who were mourning the loss of Harley. So we decided to have a small ceremony in the yard he loved to play in and poop in....
We took the Saturday before to get ready for the party. Our tension was high. Fighting about nonsense. There is a statistic about couples who divorce after the loss of a child...it is quite high. I can see how this could play out. Not sure how to deal with the loss...it takes shape in a very weird dynamic in the relationship. We literally fought every step of the way...
Here we are at Jilbertos for a quick breakfast burrito...
The flowers ...
At Winco, we ran into this couple who had 2 pomeranians. Needing a puppy fix, the couple was so lovely to let us pet and love up on the puppies. Warm bodies. Fuzzy butts. Just what we needed to ease some of the tension...
Setting up the memorial...
Harley "loved" parties. He always knew when mommy started to cook and get out the dishes company was not far away. From his vantage point the purpose of these parties were always for him. He loved people, and people loved him...
The cake...
The food...
Berries and fluff...
Mommy and daddy...
The selection process...
Harley's Rose...
Friends...family...the anchors in our life...
The Service: A planting ceremony in the rose garden...
During the ceremony, Jamie surprised me with a locket. Photo of Harley...In loving memory...
The party. This one's for you Harley...as they all have been...we love you baby boy...
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